Dangerous Liaisons on Camera
About a week or two ago, a friend of mine sent me the infamous Tammy video that had been making its way around the Singapore internet circuit. Forums, blogs..they were all swapping the video.
I'm no saint. I have encountered porn before (who hasn't?) but since most porn is geared toward men, I tended to get bored by it more than anything else. But this, this was something different.
I could not bring myself to watch the entire video and midway through it, I ran to the bathroom and nearly threw up. Don't get me wrong, I don't think sex is gross. But as an intensely private person, I could not bring myself to watch the violation of someone else's privacy without feeling sick to my stomach.
This kid didn't sign up to be an instant porn star and have everyone, her neighbours, friends, previous classmates, everyone who had ever known her, see her naked and making out with her boyfriend. Sex is the most private, intimate act there is and even though they filmed it, it was obvious that they never meant for it to garner the audience that it does today.
Nearly everyone I know has had that nightmare, where you appear in school or some public area suddenly naked and people point at you and laugh. I can only imagine, that for her, she wakes to this nightmare every single day.
Singapore is a hard enough place to live in when one has made mistakes, much less a mistake on this scale and regarding something as taboo as sex. Where ever she goes, what ever she does, there will always be someone who will recognize her, realize that she's no innocent and there will always be the whispers behind her back and the snide comments sent her way.
Please stop passing the video around. Forget the morality of it, the rights and wrongs...just stop.
I'm a very thin skinned person, and I know...that if I had been in her shoes, I'd have killed myself or left the country for good by now. I don't know what she looks like, I refused to look or remember and I'd really rather not know anyway.
Porn is one thing, but this isn't porn and this girl is not a porn star. Let her be. Whatever mistakes she may have made, she didn't deserve a comeuppance of this magnitude.
I'm no saint. I have encountered porn before (who hasn't?) but since most porn is geared toward men, I tended to get bored by it more than anything else. But this, this was something different.
I could not bring myself to watch the entire video and midway through it, I ran to the bathroom and nearly threw up. Don't get me wrong, I don't think sex is gross. But as an intensely private person, I could not bring myself to watch the violation of someone else's privacy without feeling sick to my stomach.
This kid didn't sign up to be an instant porn star and have everyone, her neighbours, friends, previous classmates, everyone who had ever known her, see her naked and making out with her boyfriend. Sex is the most private, intimate act there is and even though they filmed it, it was obvious that they never meant for it to garner the audience that it does today.
Nearly everyone I know has had that nightmare, where you appear in school or some public area suddenly naked and people point at you and laugh. I can only imagine, that for her, she wakes to this nightmare every single day.
Singapore is a hard enough place to live in when one has made mistakes, much less a mistake on this scale and regarding something as taboo as sex. Where ever she goes, what ever she does, there will always be someone who will recognize her, realize that she's no innocent and there will always be the whispers behind her back and the snide comments sent her way.
Please stop passing the video around. Forget the morality of it, the rights and wrongs...just stop.
I'm a very thin skinned person, and I know...that if I had been in her shoes, I'd have killed myself or left the country for good by now. I don't know what she looks like, I refused to look or remember and I'd really rather not know anyway.
Porn is one thing, but this isn't porn and this girl is not a porn star. Let her be. Whatever mistakes she may have made, she didn't deserve a comeuppance of this magnitude.
posted by adinahaes at 5:20 AM
1 Comments:
Yes. Poor thing that she is. Time will pass, the hype will subside, but there is no way her circle will forget. She can only live with it.
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